I usually don't vent on my blogs, but today is an exception. I realized something . . . read on! :)
Tuesday and Wednesday I watched my friend's 17-month-old son, (he's just 2 weeks older than Rosie). It was a lot of fun, but a lot of work! It seemed like at every moment at least one of them was crying and another one was getting into something.
I came to the realization that I'm not ready for another kid. It hit me hard because I've been really thinking I was ready to have another one . . . soon. After this boy's dad picked him up, I just crashed. I didn't do the dishes, I didn't pick up the house, and I went to bed early.
It made me appreciate and feel awe-struck at the women who raise multiple little kids. I've been contemplating whether some women are born with the "power" to have a lot of kids and some women aren't. Or if it's something learned. I'd love your opinion.
Anyway, I do think I will have at least one more child, maybe even two or three more. However, I want to be able to be a good mom and make sure their needs are met before I introduce more kids into the family.
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I know exactly how you feel! I was watching my sister's little boy and Hannah and at the end of the day I was sure that there was no way that I would ever be able to have more kids than just one! ;) I can't even imagine what you went through with 3! ;) I always thought you would have a bunch of kids...mostly because you are SO good with them! So don't get discouraged you are going to be a great mom with LOTS of kids! ;)
Oh, you are such a great mom! And although I'm not one to really have an opinion on motherhood yet, I definitely think that it is something to be learned, those so-called "power-moms" are just those that are ready to take on the challenge, and learn from all of those wonderful experiences! Hope I'm making sense...
I think there are definitely those born with the personality to handle lots of kids, and those who are not. I'm sure some is learned; when that's what life deals you, i think you just figure it out. I think the decision of when and how many is very personal, it just needs to be right for you. You will be wonderful no matter what you decide, because you are such a great mom! We miss you guys
I too think women that have tons or even two the same age are amazing. I just don't think I could do it. But I do think it is learned, most I have talked to say you just do it cause what other option do you have.
I've thought a lot about this topic and here's my two cents. :o) I think with every kid you learn more and are able to juggle things a little bit better. I also think that while some moms with multiple young children might be able to keep everything together slightly better, the reality is that everyone just has 24 hours. It is not possible to do everything! I think part of the learning is knowing what things aren't important. I'm still figuring that part out. I think I could write a thesis on this topic, but I'll stop now. :o)
Ok I have to leave my thoughts. I would have never pictured myself with five kids! (that is hard to even type that number) but the big difference is that they are all mine and they came one at a time. It is so much easier to take care of kids when you love them and that is your job. You have tough days with just one or two kids, I think that the number doesn't matter so much as the mood of the day. As long as you don't have twins all is well. :) Of course mine are spread out a bit and I have a helper with the babes these days. :)
the last post is from me, Cara. i am using my in-laws computer and can't figure out how to change identity. Sorry.
I know what you mean! For what it's worth, I think you're an incredible mother. It is such hard work!
Sometimes I think I'm not ready for another one...but I guess it's too late for me to make that decision. :)
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